How To Ask Your Ex On A Date (Avoid Rejection and Get a Yes!)
# How to Ask Your Ex Out on a Date
Today we’re going to be talking about how to ask your ex out on a date and we’re also going to be talking about how to avoid some common mistakes that some people make when asking their ex out on a date. But first, my name is Clay with modernlove.life. I want to help you get the great loving relationship that you’re looking for without having to play mind games, or hard to get, or pretend to be anyone other than who you are because you deserve to be loved for the unique, amazing, and wonderful person that you are. And if you like what we’re doing, be sure to hit that thumbs up button and be sure to subscribe to the channel if you’re not already. Anyway, with that being said let’s go ahead and get into all of this.
## When to Ask Your Ex Out
So when it comes to asking your ex out on a date, this is something that you’re going to want to do at some point in the process. I mean after all, I know that a lot of people are coming from different places – some of you are not in contact with your ex, some of you are in contact with your ex, some of you are choosing to not be in contact with your ex because you’re doing something like the no contact rule or hopefully active no contact which is something that I’ve pioneered. But eventually at some point, you’re going to need to take things from texting to actually talking to your ex and actually getting together for a date. You don’t want to have just a digital relationship, so we want to actually start to meet our ex in person and to actually go out on a date.
## How to Ask Your Ex Out
But how do you ask your ex out on a date? A lot of times people will do this in a little bit of the wrong way. Sometimes people will ask their ex out of the blue if they want to get together for some sort of date or something like that. Maybe you’re not very comfortable or familiar with normal dating standards and you just want to contact somebody and just ask them out. But here’s the risk in it – you may be reaching out to your ex in a difficult emotional spot and it may have absolutely nothing to do with you. It might have something to do with you, but it may have absolutely nothing to do with you. If you don’t know where your ex is at emotionally because maybe you haven’t been in contact with them for a while, maybe you just don’t know how their particular day-to-day is going, or something else in between, just sending a message like, « Hey, do you want to get together and do this thing? » may not necessarily go over too well.
## Building Rapport Before Asking
What I recommend that people do is that they actually develop a sense of rapport with their ex first. They actually engage in a little bit of conversation just to sense where their ex is at on an emotional level. Once the two of you are actually better emotionally connected, that’s when you can suggest the idea of getting together and doing something like a date. I wouldn’t recommend you call it a date unless you and your ex are really super close and there is very obvious romantic tension between the two of you. Generally speaking, I’d recommend that you call it a meetup or getting together or something like that. But you want to do this when the two of you are in rapport. The reason for that is because it’s going to make a whole lot more sense why you’re asking them to get together. It’s going to be implied that yeah, because we’re connecting so well, because we’re having a good time talking, because we’re just enjoying this interaction, that getting together for a drink, coffee, whatever is going to make a lot of logical sense.
## Making the Ask Casual and Easy
Also, make the ask really casual. Make it seem like it’s not that big of a deal. Just make it as easy and casual as possible. Also, make it easy to say yes to. Oftentimes, especially women, expect the guy to make a lot of the plans for the dates. But in this circumstance, you’re going to have to be okay with taking the initiative. Make it easy for your ex to say yes and avoid making the ask too complicated. Just keep it casual and simple.
By following these tips, you can increase your chances of successfully asking your ex out on a date and potentially rekindling your relationship. Remember to approach the situation with empathy and understanding, and to prioritize open communication and emotional connection.
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